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HMRC internal manual

Claimant Compliance Manual

Closing the Examination: Who will meet the settlement? - Single Customer

In these cases your settlement can only be with the customer. The position is the same even if the reason for the settlement is you have established the customer was living with someone. The newly discovered partner can never be asked to meet the settlement or even help towards it.